22 September 2008

Welcome to my page where I will be adding articles that I have written, and also adding some thoughts and ideas about the way our minds work, and how we perceive the world around us.

To get things started, I have posted some articles that I have written over recent months. Some of these have been printed in Energies in Action, a bi monthly newsletter and also in my local NCT magazine.  If you want any more information on these articles or clarification on any points raised then I would be really happy to discuss them with you.

The articles posted today are:

The Pythagorean Fork, can it help us change our lives?

Is hypnosis something to be wary of?

Confidence, the key to a happy life

28 September 2008

Change

I have just been thinking about this.  It is after all what the biggest part of my job involves, because it is what most people come to me to achieve.

Change can be scary. To change you really need to do something different. If you keep doing the same old stuff you will continue to get the same old results.  The problem is that although you want to change one aspect of your life, you are usually quite happy with the rest of it. However you need to look at everything, becasue no one area of your life can be taken in isolation.  Everything needs to be reviewed to achieve change.  Many things may not need to be changed as a result of your review, but there may be elements of routine things that you do that will need alteration to achieve the desired results.

For example, I know one person who has a spider phobia.  She spends her life avoiding dusty, and disued places in case she encounters a spider. She could tackle the spider phobia headlong in hypnosis, and probably would conquer the phobia quite easily, but she would also need to adapt her behaviour and her attitudes to dusty and cobweb ridden places. She would need to be happy to embrace the idea of visiting them, and poking around in their corners. That would mean changing the habits of a lifetime, so would she do it?   Perhaps she will, perhaps not who knows?  More to the point, would you do if you wanted to get rid of your phobia?

8 October 2008

What is reality?

I was reading a book the other night, and this was a question asked at the end of a  chapter.  The question was paraphrased from a book by Trevor Silvester, and posed the question ‘Do we ever really know what reality is?’  Our perceptions colour our reality all the time. Take this example. Say you were at a party, and something happens, for example someone spills a drink or breaks a glass or something similar. If you asked three different people to describe what happened and the events leading up to it, they would probably all describe it differently.  The key elements would be fairly similar, but depending on what else they were doing, or looking at, there may be bits they missed, or angles they did not see. So what really happened, and can any one person give a full and accurate account of that?

The answer is probably not.  What we see and hear form the basis of our perceptions  I should change that last sentence though, because it is not what we see and hear, it is what we think we see and hear. Our self esteem and confidence may take a downward slide when we think someone is criticising us, but are we  seeing all of the picture?  Are we engaging in thinking errors when we think we can mind read?  Are we deluding ourselves, both positively or negatively? Are we letting our unfounded negative thoughts get us down? Is it sapping our self confidence, and making us feel low?

The way to change this is to do some work on identifying those negative thoughts and turning them into positives.  A cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist will be able to help you to identify what your negative thoughts are, and will also help you to open your mind to other possibilites of realities.  They will help you to work out whether these thoughts are in fact true, and if so just how true they might be. It could turn out to be only 10% true, and if you turn that around then it may be 90% untrue. Most people would regard that as a low level thought, and seeing things like that can help you get things into perspective.

So if negative thoughts like these are getting you down, you know what to do, give me a call and I know I can help you fee better, more positive and confident. I have seen it happen and it is great to see.  People walk out of my rooms with a gleam in the eyes, and you know and they know that they feel better.

15 October 2008

If life was like a bar of chocolate, would we ever get fed up with it?????

23 October 2008

HypnoBirthing -The word is spreading........

I went to the Earls Court Baby Show this last weekend and met many expectant parents who were all very interested in learning more about HypnoBirthing. This is wonderful.  It really is such a wonderful programme, and I sometimes feel that I should shout it from the rooftops. It was really refreshing to see that midwives were referring loads of people to our stand, as they so thoroughly support the programme.  My sincere thanks go to all those dedicated practitioners who organised the show, and I look forward to seeing some of the people I met at the show again in my HypnoBirthing classes over the coming months.  By doing a HypnoBirthing course you are definitely giving yourself and your baby the best chance of a calm,comfortable,  controlled and natural birth. I was also lucky enough to hear from the mother of the latest HypnoBaby in Crowthorne, and delighted to hear of what a fantastic birth she had.  She has kindly given me a testimonial and I have posted it on the HypnoBirthing page

15 November 2008

The Credit Crunch -the greatest proof that suggestion works!

In the last few weeks there has been nothing but talk in the media of the Recession, and the Credit Crunch, and how things are bad.  Then they lower interest rates, but the media kept on telling us that things were bad.  So what happen, the public wholeheartedly accepted the suggestions that the media have been giving them. They have completely taken on board the suggestions that we will all be poor and we should stop spending.  Pretty much the entire nation has responded to these suggestions and have stopped spending.  This is in spite of the fact that for the vast majority of people they have not experienced any hardship so far as a result of these economic woes. 

Most people in secure employment have continued to receive the same level of income each month, and in fact many of them will be significantly better off because of the interest rate falls, but because of all that they have been hearing, all the suggestions being fed to them daily by the media, they have chosen to stop spending, and therefore they have indirectly caused there to be problem. Once people stop spending then businesses suffer. When businesses suffer they make staff redundant, so they have inadvertantly being causing their own demise.

To me this is the greatest proof that suggestion actually works. Suggestion is delivered in all sorts of ways through TV, radio, and advertising.  We are exposed to it everyday.  When you  focus your attention on something you effectively become hypnotised, and in that state can take on all sorts of suggestions, and as far as I can see this is what has happened to the population. Suggestion does work.

 So is all of this getting you down? Is the constant talk of doom and gloom getting to much for you?  In these times it hepls to keep as positive an outlook as possible, and that is not easy if you watch telly, or listen to the radio or read the papers, especially the tabloids. So my advise is turn it all off, and settle down with a meditation CD and focus on yourself for a while, and just enjoy what you have. Be conscious of the suggestions you have been given, and carefully choose which ones you want to accept.

16th December 2008

The time sems to pass so quickly especially when you are busy. I have been seeing more and more people lately, and the the message that HypnoBirthing is as great as it is  seems to be spreading.  I was lucky enough to talk to the local midwifes recently and explain all about HypnoBirthing to them. They seemed to receive it well. It is really nice now, that when my clients come along to have their babies with these midwives that they will know how to best support them, so this is all really positive.

22 December 2008

The Jeremy Vine Show

I just had to add this note here today.  I have been sent a link to download a segment of the Jeremy Vine show on one of the BBC channels....Sorry, I don’t listen to an awful lot of radio so I don’t really know which BBC channel it came from.  Anyway, this segment was about hypnosis, and asked if people were scared about it. There was a hypnotherapist on the show being interviewed having helped one lady who has stopped smoking. She was a BBC employee and she said that having had it done that morning she felt really positive and calm.

They then had a phone in with various people calling in with their comments and experiences, which were all (almost without exception) positive. There was even a midwife who called in and explained about her experiences of seeing women labour so calmly and peacefully using HypnoBirthing.

It was such a positive review of the uses and benefits of hypnosis that I thought I would enter the link here so that you can visit it and listen to it yourself.  I can tell you how great hypnosis is, but I know that you would rather hear it from people who have used it and experienced it themselves, from the horses mouth as you might say.

So here is the link.....http://www.mediafire.com/?2myjjmgxmzj   Enjoy it!